Hello
Last night I stumbled upon a heated discussion between a man and woman. He was almost physically abusive; but she stopped him. Their conversation was in another language, so I can only speak about their actions. Did you know that the Bible is very clear on how we ought to relate to each other; even in disputes? Consider today’s Holy Nougat
“Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.” 1 Timothy 5:2 NLT
There is an unapologetic call for respect and care of women in this which cannot be missed. Ephesians 6 speaks to honoring of father AND mother, amplifying the type of treatment being referenced. And, 2 Timothy 1:5 attests to the warm relationship Timothy shared with the older women in his life – they were the nurturers of his faith!
Why then does Paul advise Tim, and us by extension, to treat women with honor? He was instructing him on church relations and helping him to navigate disputes with both males and females. The prior verses are clear that Timothy ought to avoid arguments, as much as was within his power, but approach differences in opinion with gentleness and prayer.
When did all that shift, and what might have caused the shift I wonder? Many might argue the breakdown in family structure, values and relationships. And I guess they are correct, especially with regard to relationships – which are naturally fragile. Yet, one realizes that the breakdown is more of an exacerbated situation than before; for the first murder begins with the first family. And the Bible cites several cases of dysfunctional relationships which indicates that this problem is almost as old as time.
Our task then is to restore the paradigm. Where women AND men are respected by others and we in turn (probably even long before), respect ourselves and demonstrate that respect in our attitudes to ourselves and others. [ouch; I may have hit a nerve there, that smarts] And my friend who is a trainer and HR specialist would quickly add,
‘Remember; our attitudes in every situation teaches people how to treat us. What does your attitude say?’
Ultimately, I believe it boils down to our understanding of our faith in response to power. Do we understand our ALL powerful God as One Who is abusive, distant, taciturn or gracious though disciplinary, generous and the fulfillment of Love? And, if the latter, then as disciples, our blueprint for action and relationships derives from 1 Corinthians 13 and Galatians 5.
With those as our litmus tests, we are equipped with the tools to check our attitudes and responses. And gifted by God’s Spirit, it can become our reality.
Grace and peace to us all!
Good morning
In Christ’s love and grace
